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Garst, this lovely foreigner who posed a very Chinese style gesture while I and my classmate took photo for him, refused us at the very beginning when we asked him to do an interview by pointing to his dormitory hurriedly and saying he was going home.

He said he came from afar, USA, just because he likes China. His first stop was not Beijing, but Henan, which means "the south of the river" and sounds very beautiful. Henan's undeveloped living condition of that moment, however, disappointed him and urged him to have a try in Beijing. It has been a year and 9 months since he left his hometown in August, 2005.

Different from most single foreigners, he didn't profess in being a bachelor all his life. On the contrary, he hoped that he could find a kindhearted, pretty, clever and tender Chinese girl as his companion for life though he is 48. Gongli stands for the Chinese female beauty in his heart. Her fine figure and outstanding manner attract him most. Chinese women are very thin and not as plump as western women, he said frankly, but they are more beautiful because they are also not as arrogant as western women.

He likes Chinese food, likes traveling and has been to many places of Beijing. He found Chinese diet very delicious, but still sneaks to have western cuisine twice a week—perhaps he has eaten western cuisine for a long time and it left undeniable memory in his stomach.(we consider he is very adaptive for only having western cuisine twice a week.) Those places of Beijing he had been to, impressed him of the long history and profound culture of Beijing and made him his stay in Beijing, in China.

"Beijing has a bad environment", he pointed to those shaking trees outside and said,” you see, it's windy, and the air will be very dirty then ", adding very humorously,” so we should hide ourselves immediately." Next he said he felt Beijing was very noisy at his first arrival, everywhere were cars and people. He even thought those grandmas and grandpas who do morning exercise were disturbing the public environment. After a long time, he got used of it as a Chinese passion—everyone greet and care about each other when they meet, so Chinese people can melt into a whole even in as a stranger on a strange occasion.

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Talking about his most disliked matter in Beijing, he said it was bargain in shopping. In westerners' concept, goods should be marked price clearly, with its price equal to its value. But it's different in China, where marked price are mostly far from the price when the deal is struck, which is a dishonesty and time wasting to him.

At last we asked him about his work in Beijing, as a teacher and a trainer of English, he shrug and said,” it’s fun and fine to be together with students, but if I want to marry a Chinese girl here, I should change my job in the near future."

When we waved goodbye, I and my classmate smiled to each other. I believe a foreigner who can really feel Chinese women's kindness, beauty, cleverness and tenderness, will realize his hope at last. At that time, his home will be no longer a small dormitory, but a warm home in the real sense.(By Noyvonne)

理想的妻子在中国
      Garst,这是个在被我和同学抓住要采访时慌张地指着学校宿舍说要回家，到最后我们说拍个照时却摆出了很中国式的手势的可爱外国人。

      他说自己因为喜欢中国，千里迢迢从美国来到这里。第一站到的不是北京，而是河南，因为觉得河南的名字很美。可跟家乡一比，河南当时尚不发达的生活让他有些失望，所以又来到了北京。从离开家乡的2005年8月起，在中国已经1年零9个月。

      和见到的很多外国单身男士不同，他并没有信奉着终身不婚的理念，而是希望自己虽然已经48岁，还是可以找到一个善良，美丽，聪明，温柔的中国妻子作伴。巩俐在他心中是中国女性美的代表，姣好的身材和超凡脱俗的神情令之神往。他坦言觉得中国女性尽管很瘦，没有西方女子的丰满，却也没有她们的高傲，因此更美。

      喜欢中国的食物，喜欢旅游，走过北京的很多的地方。觉得中餐很美味，但可能吃了太多年的西餐，胃里边有着难以抹去的记忆，所以每周还是溜去吃两次西餐。（才去两次，我和同学觉得他已经很厉害了。）去过的北京的那些地方，让他感受到了北京悠久的历史和深厚的文化底蕴，所以打算留在中国，留在北京。

    “北京的环境不太好”，他指着外面摇晃的树说，“你看，刮风了，待会空气会很脏。”然后又很幽默地说，“所以要赶紧躲起来。” 接着，他说刚来的时候觉得北京噪音很多，车水马龙，人声嘈杂，连每天在楼下晨练的爷爷奶奶在他看来都是扰乱了公共环境；时间久了以后才发现这是中国人的热情——见面了一定要打招呼，关心生活，所以即使是陌生人在陌生的场合也可以很快地融为一体。

      说到在北京最不喜欢的事情，就是买东西时候的讨价还价。他说在西方人的观念里，明码标价，是多少钱就是多少钱；可在中国不一样，标的价钱和实际买的价钱有可能差很多，这是一件不诚实也很浪费时间的事情。

      到最后说起在北京做的工作，外教或者培训什么的，他耸了耸肩说，和学生在一起很好，很有趣。但是如果我要在这娶一个老婆的话，不久后我得换工作啦。

       当我们挥手告别时，我和同学相视而笑。我想明白中国女子是善良美丽，聪明温柔的人，最终是会如愿的。到时候他的家，也就不是30平的宿舍，而是一个真正温暖的家了吧。(By Noyvonne)

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